Being in love with someone younger… is that a problem? Just had some thoughts after I knew about someone who is in love with a younger guy and being in pain cos she just couldn’t tell him about it. She was wondering if she should, as well, since she’s like a few years his senior. So worried how people are going to look at her.
But to be honest, I think age difference is no major problem when it comes to relationships. But yeah, of course there’ll still be some minor problems coexist with being in a relationship with people of a significant difference in age. In fact, problems exist in all relationships.
Good example: My aunt is someone who is happily married to a guy who is 12 years older than her. That’s right. 12 years! They just clicked I guess. Wow. I’m not sure if I can accept being in a relationship with a guy 12 years my senior. Other than that, I think it’s just difficult to find a guy with a proper mature mindset.
A great guy would be someone like my uncle. My grandma really disliked him cos he was so much older than her daughter! But what did the guy do? He practically was there everytime she needed help. That really won her over. Really, it takes time to convince and prove that he can take care of the daughter, and that’s what he did. Whatever happens, he was there. Any help needed, he was there. He even told the mum, ”I will not marry your daughter until I get your approval, mam.” How cool is that. It showed respect for the family and he was such a dear. It proves he loves her enough to wait until the family could accept him. And that was the day the mom was totally won over. Next thing, they got the approval of the parents, the mum was so pleased with this son-in-law. They’ve now been happily married for over 20 years. Lovely ending.
But doesn’t happen very often! Guys nowadays do that? I doubt. Not cos I stereotype, but because I’ve seen so many guys treat their girlfriends like dirt. I guess its a priority thing. Love is not only about 2 people. It’s not supposed to be selfish like this, there’s still the family!
The Chinese have been right about so many things, one of them is a popular saying “Love me, love my everything” (爱屋及乌).
Point: If you decide to marry the girl, seriously, guys – give her and her family a sense of security by proving you can take care of the babe. If not, probably you just don’t like her too much after all to put in extra effort.
I know I deviate.
Back on track: Whether or not the guy or girl is mature enough to go to the extent like how my uncle did, I guess that’s the toughest part right there. Well, age don’t mean a thing to me, character does. And this just already makes it so much harder! Although… in life sometimes, it’s really difficult to find someone you like who likes you back as well. It sounds so easy, but really it’s not! Cliche as it may sound, it’s really just a miracle when the paths of 2 people cross and fall in love. That has got to be the most beautiful thing ever, right? Whatever it is, I think for relationships, we should just go with the flow. If you like this person, just tell him/her. Why think so much? Live in the moment.
Expressing your love for someone also tests their maturity level. If you express your love for him/her and they start to avoid you, how mature can they be? Move on! Maturity comes with experiences and mindset of life, and mature people can accept that you like them. Even if they don’t like you back. You know, like just sit down and talk it out. Still can hang out and be friends right? If not lovers, must be enemies meh?
The theory is simple: Just let it flow.
My friend, just let it flow. God has it all arranged for you.
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This year, my parents gave me a gold packet each! One reads ‘wealth’ and one reads ‘spring’. I keep all their red / gold packets each year. Well, not the money inside la, just the packets. haha.
